What is the connection between meditation and trauma and how to meditate properly

Meditation teacher and psychotherapist Jack Kornfield says, "Although I benefited enormously from meditation training in Thai and Burmese monasteries, I noticed two surprising things there for me. First, there were larger problem areas in my life, such as: loneliness, intimate relationships, work, the existence of childhood wounds, and various forms of fear, which even with very deep meditation I could not touch. Second, among the dozen or so Western priests (and many Asian disciples and priests) that I met during my time in Asia, with the exception of a few exceptional people of course, most of them were not helped by meditation in solving significant areas of their personal lives. . Many of them were deeply wounded, neurotic, fearful, sad, and often used spiritual practice to escape and hide their problematic parts."

Or in other words, some meditators are aware of their spirit or body, but not of their feelings, i.e. by practicing meditation they can suppress their feelings so much that in a normal situation they react like a match being lit, or in other words they find on duty guilty of his condition. On the other hand, some people understand their mind but do not have a wise attitude towards their body. There is also a third type of people who enter into excellent meditations, but their behavior in the outside world is nothing like a person and behave mostly like a victim.

What am I talking about here?

If we have started practicing meditation to solve our problems, then we have not understood the meaning of meditation! Meditation makes sense in itself, but for most people it is an attempt to solve a problem they don't want to face.

Often the problem of a person that arose with parents, partner or something else, that situation was like an initial capsule for the person to start meditation or some spiritual practice. But that's like trying to deny the trauma that happened to us or replace it with something new.

The influence of meditation on health is undoubtedly important, it is scientifically proven, but if it becomes any attempt to replace life (to bring or postpone life and its traumatic experiences or to cause a very violent reaction) it can draw them out. surface our problems much faster than psychotherapy methods.

Meditation will be effective and fulfilling when we accept the traumas and heal the damages that resulted from the so-called Oedipus complex, the inner call that makes us constantly blame the world and look for a culprit on duty for our problems.

Once we accept life attitudes and a philosophy in which problems are accepted as challenges and as parts of ourselves, a part that manifests itself to experience ourselves much more widely, meditation can bring us additional answers and mechanisms to get out of the duality in the mind. and from its pitfalls. For Eric Jung or for Freud and what he calls the Oedipus complex, it is one part of the process of individuation or the creation of a person who separates from the group (the parent) and surrenders to the internal process, just as we do in meditation.

Therefore, meditate, but accept everyday life as a challenge, do not reconcile with it, do not suppress it, but also do not call your limitations freedom. Begin to see the attitudes and situations that come as a challenge, which the unconscious part of you or your inner Self sends you for the purpose of deepening the experience with yourself and the world. You can't get the right answer just by lying around and doing nothing.

Here are some general tips on how to meditate  

– Meditate at the same time every day, either in the morning, at lunch or in the evening. By developing a routine, your practice can achieve consistent results.
– Meditate in the same room or in the same part of the room. It helps you maintain your schedule. Also energize and sensitize that room or space so that pure prana would more easily arise.
– Let your basic meditation space be physically and energetically clean. The more you meditate, the more receptive and sensitive you become to fine energy, which means that you can more easily be contaminated in an energetically impure space. That's why you should practice good energy hygiene in the meditation space - eg. by burning incense sticks, playing an OM mantra tape or using some other techniques.
– Refrain from heavy meals before meditation. Your body is geared towards digesting food, both physiologically and energetically which can make you sleepy.
– Do not meditate outside in the sun. Solar prana is too intense.
– Do not meditate if you are under the influence of strong negative emotions, such as anger or fear. Before starting to meditate, use self-awareness or other clearing techniques to reduce negative emotions.
- Refrain from drinking cold drinks one hour before and one hour after meditation. Meditation creates prana that is warm. Cold drinks cause a sudden change in body temperature, and this acts as a shock to the energy channels.
– Do not shower for two hours after meditation. Water washes away the prana that you have created.
- Do some kind of physical exercise 5 minutes before and 5 minutes after meditation, it is best to do cleansing exercises. Even light exercises help to prevent the accumulation of energy, and to expel impure prana from the meridians and chakras of the energy body. Tai chi, chi kung, or even aerobics.
- Do not rely on obstacles, noise, or other auditory impressions that can interrupt your meditation. More importantly, don't let those obstacles get you down. If a dog barks or a car horn goes off, notice it without reacting, and bring your mind back to the meditation. Don't surrender to obstacles. Don't surrender your attention and energy. You can include them in meditation in the following way:
– Acknowledge them objectively and without judgement.
- Say something to yourself like: "External sounds and noise make my meditation even deeper and my concentration even more precise. "
– Slowly bring your attention back to the key point of the meditation, and move on.

In order for a change to occur in this world and a change in oneself, it is necessary to immerse oneself in the practice that manifests itself through mistakes and repetitions, which ultimately brings valuable experiences that only lead to self-healing.