Freedom is not knowing where you are going, but knowing that you are always on your way

Every year I write myself (new) year goals. But last year I did not write them down. I told myself I know what I want and I'm going that way.

And as it happens, life does not flow in a straight line. Sometimes some offers come unexpectedly, some events derail, and some planned things don't happen for "X" reasons, and out of the many (new) annual wishes and goals, little remains "alive" and "active".

Therefore (besides writing them down), it is very important to know whether by accepting, avoiding or expanding the opportunities or events that suddenly appear on your path, you are still on your path or you have run away.

That's how I, in this year that is passing by, accepted a proposal that caused a "cursal" on my (old) website. Rushing to get back what was mine, I lost nerves, time and money, so that later, I listen to myself and see where I went in the wrong direction.

Through that event and the events that happened to me in the next few months, I learned several lessons that I would like to share with all of you.

First I realized that everything in this world has its own natural course. Some things cannot be rushed. I accepted the opportunity even though it was not planned for me. So there is no skipping, everything has its own natural flow.

Then we need to actively listen.

Words are inevitable. They are just part of the events. But what needs to be done is to actively listen and see with eyes, thoughts, mind and heart. We should listen to our intuition. Intuition comes from the way we listen to the interlocutor or the event that happens to us. For example, if I had listened to my intuition, I certainly would not have accepted the proposal. But every mistake is a challenge in which we learn how to grow.

Then, one should accept what is inevitable.

Approve does not mean approval. What comes from outside to us we cannot control. We can control ourselves. Trying to put pressure on something that happened to us, to turn the situation back, does not always give results. For example, trying to get back what is mine, I ended up with personal threats and writing bad things about me on social networks. So accept the inevitable, and from there you have a starting position to move things along.

Then, stay committed to what you're doing,

To know what your path is, to believe in yourself and your instinct, to dedicate yourself to your goals and to the idea that you plan to realize, in one, two or more years, is a virtue. Whether your goal or idea is quiet, gentle, small, big, short-term or long-term. You are he or she, who should be devoted to her. And naturally if you go off the road you shouldn't be discouraged, right?

A friend with his family recently moved from Macedonia, at the age of 40 and a half, and when I asked him, "You wanted to move away, didn't you?" How long have you wanted to move out?" He answered me: "I wanted to, but I didn't just want to, I worked on it for 2 years." This sentence is an example of dedication to me. For two years, you look for ways, paths, friends, contacts and you reach your goal. So what does a winner do in a situation like what happened to me? It engages its resources. And the greatest resources are the people who love and respect you and without whom I would not have completed the new website in such a short time (Alexandra, Martin, Ivana, Winand, Iskra – thank you from the bottom of my heart <3)!

And last, perhaps most important for me,

Expansion

You grow best when you take one step at a time, small steps that accomplish big goals. But along the way if something is not as we want or expect, or life throws us something else, it is good to expand the experience. Maybe like me and my case, you will get a different story line. New functionalities, improved appearance, new development opportunities, new friends.

Expansion is a goal, not a rule!

Well, this was exactly the topic of the workshop that was held before the traditional New Year's cocktail, which we held this year on December 17 in the beautiful Garden Spa.

The topic was: What challenges have we faced this year and what have we learned from it?

Mine are: To listen actively (with eyes, heart, mind and intuition), to accept the inevitable, to stay true to what I am doing and to expand in knowledge and growth.

I wish you to expand your wishes, goals and ideas in the coming year and write down your lessons and goals on paper 😊 so that during the year you can read them and remember what you need at the moment.

Freedom is not knowing where you are going, but knowing that you are always on your way.

Love and light

Bibi Pesheva