Love Without Borders: How to Choose a Partner with Heart and Mind

What influences the choice of partner?
A seemingly simple question, but the answer is very complex. The choice of a partner is the result of a combination of conscious and unconscious factors. Most often, family background and behavioral patterns learned in childhood play a key role.

For example, a girl who had a troubled father – an abuser or an alcoholic – may unconsciously choose partners with similar characteristics. Therapists often encounter cases where women whose fathers were alcoholics end up marrying men who have the same pathology. These choices are usually based on deep-rooted unconscious mechanisms, not rational thinking.

Chemistry or choice?
Many people believe that "chemistry" is the deciding factor when choosing a partner. However, this "chemistry" often reflects our unconscious needs or unresolved emotional issues. Some people choose partners who resemble their parents, while others are attracted to those who complement their flaws.

For example:

• Insecure people choose confident partners.
• The talkative seek the silent.
• Rigid people choose spontaneous people because they feel "liberated" in their presence.

Women who believe they constantly meet the "wrong men" are usually dealing with unconscious fears or unresolved emotional issues. For example, those who fear commitment often attract immature or unavailable partners.

Partnership: What does it mean?
A partnership is a union of two individuals who decide to combine their energies, talents, and resources to create a new reality. In a healthy partnership, both partners do not lose their individuality, but complement it and grow together.

Ideally, the partnership is based on the following principles:

1. Friendly relationship – Mutual respect and enjoyment of time together.
2. Recovery capacity – Ability to solve problems together.
3. Tenderness and respect – Nurturing intimacy and emotional connection.
4. Mutual influence – Flexibility and openness to learning from each other.
5. Attention to everyday details – Responsibility for small but significant moments.
6. Problem solving – Distinguishing between those that can be resolved immediately and those that require time and patience.
7. Building shared values – Sharing common goals and visions for the future.

Creating love is a process. The transition from "I" to "we" requires dedication, patience, and constant investment.

Workshop: "Love without Borders"
If you want to explore your inner world and understand the patterns that influence your love choices, we invite you to the experiential workshop. "Love Without Borders: How to Choose a Partner with Heart and Mind"which will be based on the two known psychotherapy directions Sculpting Virginia Satyr and Bert Hellinger's Family Constellations

📅 Date: February 22, 2024
⏰ Time: 10:00 a.m.
📍 Location: "Psychofokus - Center for Psychotherapy and Counseling", Skopje

The workshop will be led by Biljana Pesheva and Aneta Nachevska, seasoned professionals with decades of experience working with people. Through interactive methods and practical exercises, you will have the opportunity to explore how to build healthy and conscious partner relationships.

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✨Biljana Peševa is an author, trainer, yoga instructor and wellness coach with over 30 years of experience in the field of mental and emotional health, personal development and holistic practices. A nationally qualified adult trainer, certified soft skills trainer and family constellation therapist, Biljana combines her expertise in modern and ancient techniques for stress reduction, emotional healing and achieving life harmony.
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✨Aneta Nachevska is a Specialist in Medical Psychology, Systemic Family Therapist, Nationally Qualified Adult Trainer and Family Constellation Therapist, with over 20 years of work experience in psychotherapy.

🔗 For more information and registration, write a message to healthyyogaskopje@gmail.com and don't miss this unique opportunity for personal growth and understanding!

🔗 The number of participants is limited!